We’re not gonna lie, advance care planning is not a sexy topic. Most of us would way rather talk about our pizza, music or movie preferences, and guess what? Thats a way into the conversation.
“Once I know something is going to end my life, I really just want to spend my time watching The Sopranos and indulging in dark chocolate ice cream with my grandkids” (We know, this is over simplified, but something this basic can help people who will be caring for you).
Advance care directives and forms are one thing, and we encourage you to complete those, but the thing you can do today, or tomorrow, or the next day, is tell someone important in your life what’s important to you.
This doesn’t need to be a direct “do you want to be intubated?” question, (and in fact that may shut down the conversation altogether). It’s a two sided conversation where one person shares and the other person asks more about why they made that decision. It can even be two people figuring out their preferences together as they bounce off each-other. Then you have it again a year later, and a year later. We change as we age, and so too do our choices.
Instead of a frightening one-time document completion that you do and never think of again, we encourage you to think of it as a living chat with those nearest to you.
If you were asked what today what one of your wishes would be when you can’t speak for yourself, what would you say?